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Why Do Men Watch Porn?

by Matthew
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A 2012 Biblical Counseling Coalition article by Luke Gilkerson titled 4 Reasons Men Like Porn asserts that most men view pornography because – 

  • Porn is easy, but relationships are hard
  • Porn is comfortable, but life is stressful
  • Porn is exciting, but life is boring
  • Porn makes men feel powerful, but real life makes them feel powerless 

In other words, according to Gilkerson, porn is everything life isn’t. 

Gilkerson adds that porn provides an easy escape into a fantasy world where anonymous risk-free intimacy is available on-demand, and that it requires minimal investments of time, energy and money. 

He makes great points.

Everyone Knows It’s Fake

He could’ve added that men are just more visual than women

It’s true that at one time or another all men (and women) experience tragedies, let downs, exhaustion, tedium and stagnant relationships.

But it goes much deeper than that according to Chris Hedges, author of Empire of Illusion: The End of Literacy and the Triumph of Spectacle

His book delves into the “exploration of illusion and fantasy in contemporary American culture.”

Hedges found that pornography isn’t any different than professional wrestling, in that we all know it’s fake.  

Instead, we beg to be “fooled,” and porn offers a means of suspending reality, if only for a few fleeting minutes. 

It’s a poignant narrative on the ills of modern society.  

The Radical Feminist View of Pornography

Radical feminist theory claims that pornography objectifies and subjugates women. 

In 1983, prominent feminists Catherine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin helped craft a Minnesota ordinance that didn’t outlaw pornography altogether, but instead gave victims of rape and sexual abuse the option of suing pornographers for the crimes commited against them. 

The idea being pornography largely creates the culture in which sexual crimes flourish. 

To be clear, MacKinnon and Dworkin are not moderate feminists, as evidenced by the following quotes attributed to the latter – 

“Men know everything – all of them – all the time – no matter how stupid or inexperienced or arrogant or ignorant they are.”

“Men especially love murder. In art they celebrate it. In life, they commit it.”

“Seduction is often difficult to distinguish from rape. In seduction, the rapist often bothers to buy a bottle of wine.”

In other words, according to Dworkin, sex resulting from good old fashioned seduction is often rape too: even when it’s consensual and between adults, regardless if they share a bottle of wine first. 

One wonders if finding “common ground” is possible with someone like Dworkin. 

Are Men Who Watch Porn More Likely to Be Misogynistic Predators? 

No, in fact: 

Multiple studies have concluded that men who watch pornography aren’t any more likely to harbor hostile beliefs toward or commit acts of sexual violence against women than those who don’t. 

In a Journal of Sex Research study titled Is Pornography Really about “Making Hate to Women”? Pornography Users Hold More Gender Egalitarian Attitudes Than Nonusers in a Representative American Sample, Taylor Kohut, Jodie L. Baer and Brendan Watts from the departments of psychology and sociology at Western University in London, Ontario, Canada tested the theory that “pornography users would hold attitudes that were more supportive of gender nonegalitarianism than nonusers of pornography.”

Or put more clearly, that pornography users would hold attitudes that were less supportive of gender egalitarianism than nonusers. 

Spoiler alert – their findings didn’t support this notion, which is a cornerstone of radical feminist theory. 

Ironically, they found that –  

  • Compared to nonusers, pornography users held more egalitarian views in regard to women in positions of power, pursuing careers outside the home, and even abortion.
  • The attitudes of users and nonusers toward traditional family roles didn’t differ significantly, nor did their self-identification as feminist.

Likewise, research by Stetson University psychology professor Chris Ferguson and Richard Hartley, chair of the University of Texas at San Antonio’s Department of Criminology examined the correlation between pornography use and sexual aggression stretching back four decades, after which they concluded:

In other words, there was no correlation between viewing pornography and sexual aggression at all.

Pornography – Myth vs Reality 

It’s a commonly held misconception that all porn actresses are victims. 

However, it’s a claim that associate professor of feminist studies at the University of California, Santa Barbara Mireille Miller-Young at least partially refutes.

In a New York Times article from June 2013 titled Pornography Can Be Empowering to Women on Screen she states:  

“The popular rhetoric about pornography as violent, degrading, and harmful to women and society ignores the diverse ways that women actually interact with it.”

As a porn industry researcher she’s interviewed scores of performers, many of whose experiences paint a drastically different picture than the ones put forth by feminist anti-porn crusaders. 

She found that many women enter pornography enthusiastically, drawn largely by the prospects of – 

  • Lucrative and flexible work 
  • Taking care of their families and providing for their children’s educations
  • Making bold statements about their sexuality and “female pleasure”

Miller-Young also discovered that many performers had previously worked in sectors like nursing and retail, industries in which they were often treated less humanely and professionally. 

Is Porn All Bad? 

Neuroscientist and sexual behaviour researcher Nicole Prause, PhD says – 

“There is as much of a case to be made for the benefits as well as the harms.” 

When viewed by couples, porn can rekindle long dormant sparks in relationships on the rocks, and as we’ve already shown, it gives some women economic independence and a means of expressing themselves and satisfying their own sexuality. 

And in a real slap to the face to radical feminists who push the old gender pay gap fallacy, according to Marianne Mollmann’s 2012 Huffpost article, it may be the only industry in which women regularly earn more than their male counterparts. 

Not surprisingly, Prause adds that “the field is riddled with misconceptions and biases that are not supported by the data.” 

She doesn’t mention it specifically, but one commonly uttered misconception is that most female porn performers end up penniless junkies selling themselves on street corners in bad neighborhoods. 

Though it undoubtedly happens, there are scores of upper echelon female porn stars with net worths rivaling those of sports and movie stars too. 

But in what may be the biggest twist of all, numerous studies have found that feminists are more likely to watch porn than their non-feminist brethren. 

OUCH!

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